Why women have affairs?
Chat about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on since millennium. Affairs can be loaded with evils, cause heartache, and other harms. Also you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness thing, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual background, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, adult dating for merried.
Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are seeking affairs. I think generally though it is just the human state, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us get away the real world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone can switch the craving on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos culture has erected against married dating. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is extremely good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not wound your family or anybody else? You will need to lessen the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major group, colossal truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they are comfortable in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to think about. Your assets are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair occasionally solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a regular groung I fear. One or the other, usually the husband is sexually neglecting his lady for a large humber of reasons. As a male I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is gone, maybe it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply developed apart, our general concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they search for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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